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Post by gibbsgirl on Dec 31, 2015 4:20:27 GMT
First world problems, I know. I freely admit that. But, I'm asking for prayers anyway.
I'm praying for one on my older boys to be physically and mentally ready for unsportsmanlike attacks on the wrestling mats.
We have some big tournaments between now and about Valentine's Day. And, this has become a challenge.
His skills have increased as an athlete a lot in the last year. And, at least four times he's had kids cheat to try and beat him. It doesn't always work.
But, whether it gets them the win or not, he's facing the challenge of dealing with overcoming others who will try and cheat you in life.
So, I'm praying for his health and safety, of course, but also his ability to be able to take the hits and not be phased at all until the match is over and he hopefully wins.
The ones I can think of off the top of my head....
Getting punched twice across the face instead of the real move crossfacing. My son beat him hard in that match too. Yay!
Getting spit on so the ref was forced to stop the match for body fluids, before the kid was pinned. Then,a week later at another tournament, the kid's dad tried to have words with my son. The nerve!
Getting driven into the bleachers hard, then high fiving adults after. Trashy. My son beat him too. Yay!
Getting his hand smashed, was already injured, too.
Getting kicked in the crotch twice. First one was definitely intentional.
It's hard to watch. I'm praying so hard for him to be able to block these cheap shots and to overcome them for the win.
He's having a great season. But, this is a frustration, challenge, worry that is going on.
He's wrestling in a weight class above where he was expected to be by many. And, He's wrestling waayy better than many people anticipated.
Seems like we weren't having these problems the first month of season, but this last month of season it's happening more frequently. And, season is only about half way done.
So, I appreciate any prayers y'all could remember to send. Thank you.
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Post by paisley on Dec 31, 2015 4:30:02 GMT
Big boys really hate losing to smaller kid.....but after the first year the "David's" of wrestling are respected by opponents bigger than them...
Preying for health.
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Post by themotherhen on Dec 31, 2015 9:09:37 GMT
gibbsgirl, my 6 year old does not have as much muscle and strength as my other little guys, even my 5 year old. It really upsets him. I always tell him that it is more important for him to play fairly than to get a cheap shot in. He does "work out" every day, on my advice, doing push-ups, crunches and jumping jacks. I would really encourage you to stress to your son, as I am sure you have, that good sportsmanship is the first goal. Any wins after that are just icing :-) Also a strong defense is better than a middling offense. It is unfortunate that many children are taught to win by any means, rather than a clean, fair fight. That is not good preparation for life, which I believe is the ultimate goal of sports programs. They are meant to teach good life lessons, not how to cheat and win.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Dec 31, 2015 13:28:27 GMT
Yep. This one boy of mine does not suffer from ego or lashing out in anger or anything like that on the mats, which is a blessing. I guess God is just giving him the opportunity to learn how to take it/overcome it when it's dished at him. It's hard to watch. Just praying about it a lot lately.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 1, 2016 2:49:07 GMT
Add on prayer. My 10 to got hurt at practice tonight. Doctor said to scratch him from Saturdays tournament and possibly Sundays tournament.
Trying to prevent a hip injury from ballooning to a six week recovery instead of one or two weeks.
A teammate brought his little brother to practice tonight. I think it was "for fun". Darned kid tried to finish a double leg shot like he was a wwf wrestler. He was a lot bigger than my son anyway.
Coach told him he could only practice with the bigger boys after cause he wasn't being safe. But, my kid already was hurt. Ugh!
Just praying for his healing and for wisdom to determine how much he can handle in the coming days without complicating the injury.
The other kid's not a bad kid. But, I loathe carelessness.
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Post by paisley on Jan 1, 2016 3:05:06 GMT
It happens, my boys very first match, with about 6 men from the church there to root for him.... ended quickly and with a trip to the er. Shoulder. Some said it was a cheap shot...I would no know. I never understood how one won the match in it did not end with a pinning.
Heck at state I thought my boy lost cause cause the bigger by seventy pounds seemed to spend most of his time on top of my son then for a few seconds my boy would pop up and toss the kid down only to once again repeat the above. But my boy won all these points for some reason.
To me a good match is when no doctors were needed.
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Post by themotherhen on Jan 1, 2016 3:06:55 GMT
So sorry to hear about the new injury, I hope it heals fast! And letting kids "play" at something as demanding and potentially dangerous seems foolish to me. If that kid wants to wrestle, he should join the team.
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Post by paisley on Jan 1, 2016 3:15:31 GMT
I'm really impressed that Gibbs knows the term ..I never got it.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 1, 2016 3:45:43 GMT
I'm really impressed that Gibbs knows the term ..I never got it. I'm seriously the least informed wrestling afficianado along with my girl in the family. But, the men and boys know a lot, and we learn from them. It helps when you have to rewatch all the matches at home repeatedly. Hubby talks the boys through them and replays and shows them counter moves or what mistakes he can see they made. Some of it was bound to rub off eventually. We've been at this for a lot of years. Hubby wrestled growing up. I never attended a single wrestling activity until I became a mom and started having to take my boys It really is an incredible sport with a great season set up. And, no kids ever sit the bench so family time and money resources are not wasted on pursuing it. Plus, besides the physical strength and agility they develop, its unbelievably mentally challenging. Really a lot of matches are about wrestling smart and determination which is all mental. So, its the only sport we chose not to give up or pass on trying with our kids. And, I think it's really helping them develop into better young men because of it. The caveat I'd add though is you have to be in a good program with good coaches. And, not all programs are like that. Many are, but I've seen several that are a waste because the grownups just don't run a top notch program. We've been blessed with a great year-round program in Kentucky and an incredible camp in Minnesota we've made use of.
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Post by paisley on Jan 1, 2016 15:55:18 GMT
I'm really impressed that Gibbs knows the term ..I never got it. I'm seriously the least informed wrestling afficianado along with my girl in the family. But, the men and boys know a lot, and we learn from them. It helps when you have to rewatch all the matches at home repeatedly. Hubby talks the boys through them and replays and shows them counter moves or what mistakes he can see they made. Some of it was bound to rub off eventually. We've been at this for a lot of years. Hubby wrestled growing up. I never attended a single wrestling activity until I became a mom and started having to take my boys It really is an incredible sport with a great season set up. And, no kids ever sit the bench so family time and money resources are not wasted on pursuing it. Plus, besides the physical strength and agility they develop, its unbelievably mentally challenging. Really a lot of matches are about wrestling smart and determination which is all mental. So, its the only sport we chose not to give up or pass on trying with our kids. And, I think it's really helping them develop into better young men because of it. The caveat I'd add though is you have to be in a good program with good coaches. And, not all programs are like that. Many are, but I've seen several that are a waste because the grownups just don't run a top notch program. We've been blessed with a great year-round program in Kentucky and an incredible camp in Minnesota we've made use of. Totally agree..it is great...It's an individual sport and a team sport. But still I never under stood it... so kodos to you. Did you seek out Mary on Facebook?
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 1, 2016 16:31:36 GMT
No, I wasn't sure about it, cause I don't know her personally. Didn't want to be weirdly forward it intrusive. Wasn't sure she even knew who I was.
I found your son though. Was thinking of letting my one boy friend request him if your boy is interested. Let me know what he says.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 1, 2016 16:33:09 GMT
Oy. Just dropped off my older one at practice. Coach said this tourney might be so rough I may have to scratch him from Sunday tourney. Praying he can handle it all. Life sure is an adventure.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 3, 2016 3:06:16 GMT
Well, we survived today's tournament. Actually, the boys did pretty good. There were some unsportsmanlike issues with kids and coaches. They definitely impacted the tournament, but no ambulance calls, and most of the folks were above board.
Final scores were impressive. We faced at least four other teams with almost twice as many kids from big places like cincy and Louisville, and they were clubs that can skim there populations for recruiting the best of the best.
Our coach from last year actually left with his kids to join one of their teams.
They tried some shenanigans with how they seeded the brackets too, and changing how the teams overall were scored.
We come from a county of 15k people total. And, 6-10 of our kids were pulled to fill in slots for the high school team today because of high school boys who didn't make weight. So, we didn't even have all the middle school or all the best. But, we had enough that we made 5th or 6th overall with two boys taking the podium too.
There were 16-18 teams there, and we are from one of the smallest populations anywhere on the entire roster.
Our boys held their own. A few got pinned. We had some matches lost by points, but none were major decisions that I saw. And, we had several wins. In fact, I think all our boys had at least one win.
Feeling really good about how our kids took on all these big shots. Very proud of them.
My 10 yo was better today. Still praying for health and success tomorrow. We'll see how he does during warmups tomorrow. I'll have at least two boys on the mats tomorrow, possibly three.
Hope y'all are doing good tackling and facing the challenges in your weekend, too! Be well.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 5, 2016 7:58:38 GMT
Well, we're calling the hs coach tomorrow and letting him know our boys will not be at practice for the rest of the week and will not compete this weekend.
There is a coach, who we actually like a lot, is skilled and has worked his butt off for the team. However, the last few weeks there have been a few issues where we thoroughly disagreed with him playing medical expert on a teammate who is autistic and a few other things.
Today, on a different medical issue,he tried to play medical expert with my 10 year old. Yesterday, he was obviously frustrated with a medical concern, different one again with my 14 yo.
He knows what is what but doesn't want to accept it. And, he questioned my answers I gave about what we found out at the doctor's office today, and insisted he get a medical note.
He has no reason to doubt my word, and has handled it poorly. I actually rang the d s ofc after we left and requested they drop that very type of note into the mail to me to resolve any issues at this weekend's tournaments. I did not expect the coach at home to demand he also be given the note since he knows us well and we've had a great relationship with him thus far.
Because of that, we will be benching all of our boys from practice and competing until this possibly resolves.
This is our last weekend of competing before the playoff type competitions begin. Very disappointing, but it is more important that we show our kids we will pull together to support each other and our kids when one or more of us face such a conflicting challenge.
Wrestling is such a big part of our life at this point. But, supporting what's right is still more important.
Praying we are doing the right thing. I hate feeding the drama, and I pray that our conversation helps quell it, rather than flame it up worse.
We have to respond/act with what's happened. But, it's frustrating to see this happen at what is a very important part of our boys' year.
Giving it to God, and to y'all as another prayer request.
Praying y'all are doing well too with the important things that are weighing on you.
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Post by paisley on Jan 5, 2016 9:20:48 GMT
No, I wasn't sure about it, cause I don't know her personally. Didn't want to be weirdly forward it intrusive. Wasn't sure she even knew who I was. I found your son though. Was thinking of letting my one boy friend request him if your boy is interested. Let me know what he says. Sorry but Mary knows about you... and your boy Go for the friends thing for my boy.. he up for it..
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