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Post by paisley on Jan 5, 2016 9:24:28 GMT
Just to let you know... medical notes from the doctor verses my son's word or mine... it's like a cya deal I think.
At least it is here.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 5, 2016 12:29:54 GMT
Just to let you know... medical notes from the doctor verses my son's word or mine... it's like a cya deal I think. At least it is here. Oh absolutely. And, I have no problem with that for when we're dealing with skin checks by folks who don't know us. But, this coach knows us, knew we were at the doctor and yelled at my older boy for calming my younger boy down when he was told to get off the mats. My son and I both told him the doctor's office cleared him and I had phoned after forgetting to ask for a note, so I'd have one for when we rolled into skin checks this weekend with the other people. He has no reason to doubt us. He is ticked at a lot of people right now, including us, and handling it poorly. Cya is all well and good. But, it's also about balancing who gets exceptions and who doesn't, and it's never as cut and dry as it should be. Coaches make exceptions all the time if it suits them for a strategy move to help the team. It just was another thing he has handled poorly in the last several days. Waiting to hear back from the hs coach this morning. |
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 5, 2016 13:24:36 GMT
No, I wasn't sure about it, cause I don't know her personally. Didn't want to be weirdly forward it intrusive. Wasn't sure she even knew who I was. I found your son though. Was thinking of letting my one boy friend request him if your boy is interested. Let me know what he says. Sorry but Mary knows about you... and your boy Go for the friends thing for my boy.. he up for it.. OK. I sent a friend request to Mary. Hope it was the right lady, lol. Gonna see if I can get my boy friended with your boy soon. Thanks! |
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 6, 2016 23:32:04 GMT
Well, had the talk with the coach we were having a problem with. We're back to letting the boys wrestle as they're able to. We're not quite out of the woods yet.
Didn't make much progress with him about the other boy. But, he's not my kid. The kid's mom knows what we know though, so hopefully it will help her to manage her kid's participation easier.
I'm at a loss for what you even say to a coach when he says with total sincerity that "so and so doesn't have autism, he just doesn't listen. So he's just not coachable."?!?!?!
I was so frustrated when he said that.
Then, when my husband was coaching with him days later, the kid comes up again, and the coach says he " can tell because he's not like the other kid on the team who's autistic, younger, and listens better."!?!?!?!
I'm hurting a lot for that kid's mama. Her kid is very functional and has even won matches, but the coach who us not a bad person, is struggling to accept the kid and resents the things that make him different to work with, I think.
The coach is carrying an enormous load IMO already. But, fish darn it! First of all, there are plenty of other wrestlers and families that are flakes and a pain in the butt sometimes too, with far less compelling reasons. This family is volunteering and consistently there.
Second of all, I hate. Hate. Seeing children with challenges pushed away from normal life activities. Imo it makes such a difference later in life helping them achieve their potential when others have grace to allow them to be welcomed to try things like any other kid.
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Post by paisley on Jan 7, 2016 0:10:09 GMT
I know that feel...
A teacher did not believe FAS was a medical birth defect.
Prenatal alcohol exposure effects should have cleared up when I the adopted mother stopped drinking... and he told me I looked sober every day... could imagine me with a drinking problem....
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Post by MisterG on Jan 16, 2016 8:36:54 GMT
Hoping things will smooth out some. I went out and got my coaching certification, so I can help step into the more difficult coaching situations for the other coaches.
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Post by paisley on Jan 16, 2016 8:56:25 GMT
Great... parents not village idiots do a better job in the long run.
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Post by MisterG on Jan 18, 2016 3:48:25 GMT
Great... parents not village idiots do a better job in the long run. I used to coach when my kids played baseball and football, but when we moved to our current location, we wanted to be a normal family cheering from the stands. I will be the first to admit that I am not the best coach, but I can't sit in the stands and watch all these great kids get ignored or yelled at. I still want to be in the stands cheering the kids on, but there is a definite need for another coach on the mats that has a little more patience. Since my better half is also a member here and is more than willing to laugh at that last statement, I will have to emphasize the little. |
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 18, 2016 4:51:32 GMT
Great... parents not village idiots do a better job in the long run. I used to coach when my kids played baseball and football, but when we moved to our current location, we wanted to be a normal family cheering from the stands. I will be the first to admit that I am not the best coach, but I can't sit in the stands and watch all these great kids get ignored or yelled at. I still want to be in the stands cheering the kids on, but there is a definite need for another coach on the mats that has a little more patience. Since my better half is also a member here and is more than willing to laugh at that last statement, I will have to emphasize the little. Yes, I'm just going to pray that patience the size of a mustard seed will be enough in the difficult moments like faith can be. |
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 30, 2016 3:21:13 GMT
For Pete's sake! I'm praying for my boys. They wrestle regionals this weekend. The coach dropped one to a lower weight class WITHOUT my permission. He may not make weight.
Then, he kicked another one out of practice Thursday for ringworm again! So, I had to take them to the doctor again this morning to get the papers filled out again!! Confirming it has been checked and it is NOT ringworm.
So, we run into the coach at Walmart, and he says the papers are no good because the officials can do what they want. (Not true according to the forms). And, he says they're filled out wrong because they have to say the kids have been treated and are now clear.
Our Dr's office was furious because they do not need treatment for ringworm because none of them have ringworm!
So, I don't know what's going to happen. We've had some other problems going on that really do need to be dealt with, and this fiasco has become such a distraction.
One of my boys got 3rd at districts two weeks ago, and two days later got diagnosed with pneumonia. He kept saying he was OK all day. But, he seemed off. Came off the mats that night with 104 fever. Couldn't get it under control for two days, and had to go to hospital. He got treated and was back at full practices with drs clearance two days later.
He's working so hard. The coach just does not seem to get that exzema and some other things like risk for pneumonia are all tied to their asthma, and that is the real thing health wise that I have to help them manage.
Then, also at Walmart he tells my husband that we should bleach and scrub his skin tonight so it's scabbed up but not in the shape of ringworm. Ok, i am not going to do things that will iritate and inflame my kids skin more, especially when i have medical clearance forms that state he is fine, and not contagious at all, because it is not ringworm.
Also, he mentions that HIS OWN SON likely has active case of ringworm right now. His son has not missed any practices, and I haven't heard that he is under a doctors care.
Yeah, that just happened.
We really do like this man and his family. They are pretty good people. But, I've had enough of this for the moment.
We have some other nonhealth and wrestling things that have blown up and need attention. And, I guess I'm just praying in this post right now to be able to give it all to God.
I've done everything I can. My husband even took the day off work to help me deal with this coach today, and to be at the doctor's with me to hear first hand what they said today.
I want every boy on our teams to get to wrestle this weekend. And, I want them all to do great. And, I'm praying that my boys have no problems getting cleared to compete, and that they win all their matches. Have to be top four to advance to state next weekend.
Thanks for listening and your prayers. It's nice to be able to share them here.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 30, 2016 3:40:03 GMT
PS. Son sprained his ankle at practice today, also. Praying for healing. Wrestling back to back tournaments this weekend will be a challenge.
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Post by paisley on Jan 30, 2016 5:49:45 GMT
My son's coach came to school each morning and at lunch time and checked each boy and girl for skin and health.
Any with skin issues he would whip our the laser light thing ...it had a blue light. Mats bleached and non were to share clothing that had been worn and not freshly washed.... heck he washed many of the kids clothes or assigned one to wash them. (Any one on a well water has heavy iron.... ruins team uniforms)... I only had one but I know about the mad dashes to doctors.... the native medical team is not around the corner... but the have a clinic 40 miles so it was a pain.
Hang in there.
Lower weight class was a common thing... my boy was pushed in the opposite.... till the matches were 75 pounds over his weight and that too was scary cause my boy looked like midget and I worried about kids so big squashing him. But though making weight was not an issue ..... he was not allowed to eat or drink soda in front any of his team mates out of respect and team spirits.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 30, 2016 12:38:21 GMT
Yes, it's a blacklight. If you have ringworm the infected skin will glow. Fast, easy, accurate way to verify.
Yes, weight cutting is common. I don't agree with it, and our coaches know we won't do it. They have to wrestle up if weight is a concern. He should not have been entered in the class. Our boys are very lean. If they were pudgy or overweight at all, I wouldn't mind them losing weight. But, they are not, so cutting weight is not a healthy decision anyway.
Coaches crack me up anyway. They always talk to the boys about body fat% and cutting weight, and it's a bunch of bunk. Cutting weight in real practice, is always about starving yourself and wearing extra layers while eating, sleeping, and working out at a high level for up to a few days before a tournament. You don't lose body fat in any meaningful way doing that. You get dehydrated.
Seriously, it's so fashionable to discuss concerns about girls having a healthy body image and eating practices. There are thousands and thousands of kids who wrestle. Mostly boys too. But, it's very un-pc to see how bad it is to cut weight for most of them with the way it's done, lol.
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Post by paisley on Jan 30, 2016 17:30:44 GMT
You are right it water weight, can't eat or drink till weigh in right?....
I never even thought about the males and body image... you have a point. Keep us posted.
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Post by gibbsgirl on Jan 30, 2016 20:50:29 GMT
You are right it water weight, can't eat or drink till weigh in right?.... I never even thought about the males and body image... you have a point. Keep us posted. Yeah. I think the effect is the same. Girls are told for self esteem they should basically fight their own body in a battle to control it's weight for image and self esteem. The boys aren't worried how they look. But, are essentially told they should also fight to control what their body is doing. And, it's all at a time when they are going through puberty. When their bodies need excessive food, excessive rest, etc on a regular basis to meet it's requirements for healthy growth. I have really strong feelings about how wrong that is, which is why I've been such a hard nose about letting them wrestle where their body naturally fits. Today's tournament isn't going great. It's not going horribly either. We'll see how it plays out. It is going pretty fast. I think we'll be out of here in 2-3 hours. So we may be able to get home and in bed in a reasonable time. That would be awesome, since they wrestle again tomorrow! |
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